I recently read a blog post about INFJs and a section described my experiences throughout my life almost perfectly.
“INFJs are one of the hardest of all types to type. The reason for this is because of their ability to blend in with the environment they are in at any given time. This is achieved via their auxiliary function of Fe, which will call their chameleon function. Typically, how this manifests is that an INFJ will be hard to notice. They are hard to see. You could be talking with on and have no idea that you are talking to a person of this type. They will embody what their delicate gyroscope tells them to embody at any given time. INFJ tend to balance out interactions such that if the person they are talking to is too active, they will take a passive role. If the person they are talking to is too passive, they will take the active role. Like the tides they constantly shift. Their personalities are difficult to peg down.”
I've felt this way most of my life. I balance people and situations. People who are loud and extroverted often think I'm quiet. But quiet people may find me talkative and engaging. It's something that naturally happens to me without much thought. My energy and rhythm become what is needed.
For example, a serious person may find me acting silly, lighthearted and easy going. I'm naturally balancing their formal, serious energy in order to keep harmony and peace. This often confuses people when they realize I'm different around others. When I'm around someone who is goofy and careless, I may become anxious and uptight. Balancing their energy. Also keeping them out of trouble and safe.
I always knew this about myself, but seeing someone write about it is encouraging. It can be a lonely existence but someone has to change for harmony otherwise there would be no relationships. Most people aren't reflective or insightful enough to care or notice other people in this way. As with most of the INFJ it's one sided. We are willing to change, move and give of ourselves for the sake of relationship while others are not. This becomes draining and exhausting for an INFJ, but this is how we live most of our lives.
“INFJs are one of the hardest of all types to type. The reason for this is because of their ability to blend in with the environment they are in at any given time. This is achieved via their auxiliary function of Fe, which will call their chameleon function. Typically, how this manifests is that an INFJ will be hard to notice. They are hard to see. You could be talking with on and have no idea that you are talking to a person of this type. They will embody what their delicate gyroscope tells them to embody at any given time. INFJ tend to balance out interactions such that if the person they are talking to is too active, they will take a passive role. If the person they are talking to is too passive, they will take the active role. Like the tides they constantly shift. Their personalities are difficult to peg down.”
I've felt this way most of my life. I balance people and situations. People who are loud and extroverted often think I'm quiet. But quiet people may find me talkative and engaging. It's something that naturally happens to me without much thought. My energy and rhythm become what is needed.
For example, a serious person may find me acting silly, lighthearted and easy going. I'm naturally balancing their formal, serious energy in order to keep harmony and peace. This often confuses people when they realize I'm different around others. When I'm around someone who is goofy and careless, I may become anxious and uptight. Balancing their energy. Also keeping them out of trouble and safe.
I always knew this about myself, but seeing someone write about it is encouraging. It can be a lonely existence but someone has to change for harmony otherwise there would be no relationships. Most people aren't reflective or insightful enough to care or notice other people in this way. As with most of the INFJ it's one sided. We are willing to change, move and give of ourselves for the sake of relationship while others are not. This becomes draining and exhausting for an INFJ, but this is how we live most of our lives.
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